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Dr. Mark Goulston: Easier To Be In Therapy, Than To Get Therapy In You

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Dr. Mark Goulston stops by Good Day LA. He is a psychiatrist, business consultant and coach. He is the author of the best selling book "Just Listen," where he teaches pep ole to discover the secret to getting through to absolutely anyone.

Dr. Mark Goulston stops by Good Day LA to chat about some of the latest political scandals and gives advice on how to earn back trust, and he came up with what he calls the four "Rs"

Dr. Mark says earning back that trust requires 4 Rs to match the 4 Hs you triggered.

  1. To ease the HURT you need to demonstrate REMORSE to show that you know you damaged something in them, by looking them directly in the eye and admitting you're truly sorry, with no excuses (this is the stumbling block for very narcissistic people and something people like Anthony Weiner, Eliott Spitzer, Bob Filner, John Edwards, ).
  2. To respond to the HATE you need to show RESTITUTION and offer a payback for what you took away from them by giving up something that matters to you or letting them verbally punch themselves out at you for making them feel crazy while you lied to the.
  3. To lower their HESITATION TO TRUST you need to REHABILITATE yourself to let them see a new way of dealing with those situations that caused you to stray and that you actually prefer to your old destructive behavior.
  4. To get them to stop HOLDING ONTO A GRUDGE, you need to REQUEST FORGIVENESS after practicing those 3 R's for a minimum of 6 months so they can become a part of your personality.
  5. If the other person is still unable to forgive you after that, you are no longer unforgivable (if you haven't gone beyond betrayal into abuse), they are unforgiving. It's clear what is in it for you if they forgive you, but what's in it for them? When you earnestly practice the 4 R's above, you enable the person you injured to go from fear and loathing to feeling safe, trusting and even liking you again---and that feeling is called, "euphoria."

Fun Facts About Dr. Mark Goulston:

  • Goulston is a prominent psychiatrist and consultant to major organizations.
  • His book, Just Listen, ranked #1 in six Amazon/Kindle categories, has been translated into 14 languages, reached #1 in Munich and Shanghai, and became the basis of a 2010 PBS special.
  • The Consumers Research Council three times named him one of America's Top Psychiatrists, including in 2011. For over 20 years, he has been Clinical Assistant Professor of Medicine at UCLA's Neuropsychiatric Institute.
  • Goulston sits on the Board of Advisors at HealthCorps (Dr. Mehmet Oz's foundation) and American Women Veterans, and he is a Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. He is also the Co-Founder, Co-Curator and Co-Guardian of Heartfelt Leadership, an effort to bring more humanity and ultimately more profit to the workplace.

(Source: Wikipedia)

For more about Dr. Mark Goulston, click on his Official Website.

You can follow Mark on Twitter: @MarkGoulston

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