A Cougar Makeover

SCOTTSDALE - It started out as a flattering term -- the cougar. Now, it's just overdone.

The cougar is an older woman who looks young, dates young and dresses young. But some women are taking it too far, and frankly, embarrassing themselves.

FOX 10's Linda Williams reports on what some are calling "over-cougarization."

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Dear Lea,

I am a 16 year old sophomore in Scottsdale and my mom is ruining my life. She and my dad divorced about 3 years ago and she has Just gone into total slut mode. She goes through my closet and wears my jeans and my bebe’s outfits— she has extensions and now her hair is longer than mine. She just had her boobs done again and they are huge—I can’t even have my boyfriend come over anymore because she hangs on Him and her shirts are too low cut.
I am writing to you as I see that she reads your articles and I am hoping that maybe she will get the hint. I have tried to talk to her and so has my dad but she said that she’s the adult
and she’s in the prime of her life. I think she looks desperate and pathetic
and this is so embarrassing, my friends aren’t even allowed to stay over anymore because all the other mom’s hate her. Her last boyfriend was 21—he was closer to my age...
I love my mom but I can’t handle this and my dad says I can’t live with him because he travels too much. Please Lea what can I do?

Please help me.... J

Dear J,

I am sorry to hear about your situation and I know how difficult it must be for you.
Your mom really does love you J she is just going through a phase. I am not sure what her circumstances are but there are a lot of women who go through this when they hit their 40’s. This situation usually evens out and your mom will be a little more main stream. There are lots of classy beautiful women in their 40’s around Scottsdale. Relationships are based on common ground and similar belief systems -- I know lots of former cougars who now date men age appropriate and dress -- like the classy women that they are. I personally don’t see anything wrong with dating someone a little younger however when they rival your children’s age -- I got to draw the line. Don’t worry J -- this will pass -- just hang in there… Let me know how things go and thanks for writing in. Lea